What should I do with my life?

Answer by Chris Sylvester:

Live it

Elaboration was requested. Here are my thoughts:

Wake up every day. Breath. Shower. Make your bed. Get dressed. Have a light breakfast and cup of coffee. Read whatever piques your interest for 5-30 min.

Go do whatever job it is you do. Take an hour lunch, either with coworkers you like, your boss (even it he's an asshole), or on your own. If on your own, read something else that piques your interest. Do puzzles. Listen to music. Drive around. Relax and just don't do work on your break unless you have no choice or you work an irregular job. That's your time, don't give it to an employer.

Finish the rest of your day doing whatever your work is. Strive to do the job as well as you can every day. You don't need to worry about mastery unless your in love with your work. If you are, great. You're very lucky.  

Your job is what you do for money, not who you are.

After work, go home and relax for 5-15 minutes when you get off work. Hangout with friends or family at least a few nights a week. Have a nice dinner with them as often as you can, and have a couple of drinks.

If you don't have friends, you can find some. You honestly don't need many. One good friend who you enjoy and who enjoys you for nothing other than your company is invaluable. Explore your city/town with them. Go eat with them at restaurants you've never tried before as often as you can, and make sure you have at least one favorite spot where the waitstaff knows you by name. However, don't eat out every day. Learn to cook. Cook for people and they will love you.

If you don't have family, your friends can be a wonderful substitute.

If your single and wanting to date, find someone who will date you, but no pressure, you can get a dog too. If you have a girl/boyfriend, spend time with them, but make sure you have at least 3 nights a week for yourself. Realize that the best relationships come about when you don't make the other person responsible for your happiness and they don't make you responsible for theirs. People are frail and full of faults, so it's best to realize that you are the most important person in your life and are entirely responsible for yourself.

If you're married, I hope it's a marriage that allows you and your partner to be exactly who you are with no expectations. Enjoy time with your significant other. If you have kids, play with them, help with homework, read with them; hug them. They should be your passion project. If you don't have kids, get a dog, a cat, a fish tank, or a turtle.

Practice a hobby. Listen to music, new and old. Hone professional skills as often as there is time. Read a book. Watch your favorite tv show. Go to art galleries and museums. When the weather is nice, sit somewhere outside by yourself for 5 min to 1 hour every day. Look up at the sky at night.

Once a week, go over your finances and budget. Also run errands once or twice a week, or more if you need to. Don't buy too much crap you don't need. Don't use credit cards too often and make sure you never carry a balance more than 20% of your credit limit. Pay your bills on time, but put money aside for you that you don't touch.

Plan a trip to the most exotic place you can afford to go 6 months from now. Aside from travel expenses, you'll be surprised to find how easy it is to find awesome cheap food and great people almost everywhere. Hostels are cheap and exciting if you can't afford a hotel. Go alone or with someone you get along with exceedingly well.

Find a creative endeavor and pursue it for you and you alone. 10 min to 10 hours a day. Doesn't matter, but try to master what you love. If you don't know what that is, keep playing until you find something. Could be writing Quora posts, poetry, essays, or novels. Or it could be photography, drawing, sculpting, painting, building furniture, chess, collecting grass specimens, composing music or collecting records. Could be calculus, or cartography. Could be anything. You're free pursue as many creative outlets as you like. It's ok if you never land on a single one.

Don't try to predict your future. Try not to put more emphasis on the western ideal of success than is required to secure an income that suits your lifestyle. You'll know what lifestyle you enjoy when you find yourself content just being alone wherever you are. This feeling seems to come and go though. I'm about to turn 30, and at least it has for me. That's generally how I know when it's time to do something else and what I think will drive the next two to three decades, until I become wise.

What should I do with my life?

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