Answer by Oliver Emberton:
Your question is the problem. Stop making big decisions and focus on closing the gap with where you want to be.
A successful life is not made of easy, clean cut choices. It looks like this:
Sadly, far too many look like this:
Now I know this sounds obvious, but consider. Have you ever seen a guy desperately enamoured with a girl, but he can't bear to talk to her? Or someone who wants to get fit, but they won't step in a gym? How about someone who wants better career options but stays exactly where they are?
You always need to be closing the gap.
Stop making this a big scary decision and start taking lots of continuous small steps. Take something you love doing – or if you're not sure what that is, something you'd like to try. And move towards it now.
In your case, you don't have to choose between a well-paid job you don't like and the unknown. You have countless other options:
- Start up a small business in your evenings
- Ask your boss what you could do for them to get promoted
- Teach yourself a new skill that interests you
- Write a blog or a book
Some steps will lead to greater things. Others will be dead ends. But as long as you sit feeling paralysed, I can assure you nothing will change at all.
Do not, and I shall repeat for emphasis, do not defer this until a "better time". If you make a habit of that, you'll wake up one idle Monday and wonder how you let your whole life fly away.
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